Welcome To RokiskyFitness

It all started when... 

        I was a teenager running on the beach with my Dad. I was never the fastest nor the strongest kid. Plus, I was short and insecure of my abilities. And to top it off, I was afraid to fail in front of others. Nevertheless, my Dad turned me into an athlete through his training methods. After an eight to ten hour workday, he would drive me over the bridge to train at the Seaside Heights beach in New Jersey. We would train in the winter to get me ready for the upcoming football season, but I enjoyed the seclusion. During the winter months Seaside Heights is a ghost town. You would come across a handful of people, but most of the time it was just me and my dad running in the sand.

      I can still remember the feeling of the cold air traveling down my lung and the inability to move quickly in the sand. You see, the sand is the ultimate master and my Dad knew this. He had me running sprints and performing agility drills. When you train in the sand you feel slow and at times it can be very frustrating. I can remember distinct times where I wanted to quit, where I didn't want anymore of it. But once you got off the beach and onto the boardwalk you felt weightless and then you are reminded how all the hard work was worth it. I remember running run along the water to the pier and back. My Dad told me to run in the softest parts on purpose. He would tell me, "Be light on your feet and glide across the sand. Focus on the ocean and notice how it moves effortlessly, be like the water." He was obsessed with getting me faster, and believed that speed was the most important factor.

      My father, Doug Rokisky, was ahead of his time when it came to training the body. I consider him to be a creative genius and owe most of my success in the health and fitness field to his teachings. I never became a collegiate athlete, but at age 18,  I could bench 360 lbs and run a 4.8 forty yard dash at my stocky frame of 5"7 weighing 195 lbs. However, these numbers could have been even better, but my ego got in the way. I truly believe that if I did exactly as my Dad said that I would have been a collegiate athlete. Looking back with my current knowledge, if I would have listened and trained as hard as he wanted me to, my abilities were limitless.

      My father was a genius, too smart for his own good and it affected his ability to teach. You see, being a teacher is one of the hardest jobs in the world. In order to be a great teacher, you must be able to see it from the student's perspective. You must have patience and be able to motivate. Unfortunately, due to my genetic makeup (worrier gene), I don't do well with multiple steps. I do best with small steps and constantly need positive reinforcement. At the time of my training, my Dad didn't know this and his teaching style drove me away. But luckily, the work ethic he taught me never left. And that is why I named my company Rokiskyfitness, it is to pay tribute to my family. It would be unfair to give my Dad all the credit though. Both my brothers played a crucial role in my upbringing. My oldest brother (Sean) brought me under his wing while I was in the 8th grade and taught me everything he knew about weight lifting. My other brother (Justin) has constantly been of service to my growth as an individual. He has always been there to lend advice and to keep my ego in check. And I can't thank him enough for buying my ticket to fly me to Thailand and forcing me to learn Muay Thai. I can honestly say that this was the turning point in my life and I believe that everyone should go on their own quest at some point in their life. 

      Last but not least, I owe everything to my mother (Carole Rokisky). From a young age she taught me the importance of being flexible and having a strong core. And of course, she cooked, clean and drove me to all my sporting events. But once again, my egotistical mind got in the way and didn't allow me to learn nor understand how much my family sacrificed for me. Overall, the point of my flaws as a child can be summed up with the following quote from ancient philosophy: 

When the student is ready the teacher will appear.

    Ultimately, the goal of Rokiskyfitness is to help you understand that you are capable of anything, you just have to get started. One of the best ways to do this is through training. Be it physical or mental. The same principles that apply to becoming stronger and faster apply to overcoming a fear. The concept is easier said than done. To become successful you must practice. That is it. There is no way of hacking your way to the top. You must put in the hours and practice every single day. If you want to become a better speaker, then you must go and speak. When you want to become a musician you play your instrument. And of course, if you want to become a better runner then you must run. My goal is to teach you methods and actions through my experiences. I am not saying I have all the answers, but I hope that my experiences help you figure out your own answers.

“He explained that training was like sweeping the floor. Just because we’ve done it once, doesn’t mean the floor is clean forever. Every day the dust comes back. Every day we must sweep.”
— Ryan Holiday, Ego Is The Enemy

       Above all, I want you to realize that you have the potential to be great at anything. You have the capability to be successful. It is never too late to start, but it is important to be realistic and understand that the road to success is filled with its ups and downs. The road to success is a roller coaster filled with failures along the way. You can let these failures destroy your dreams or you can use them to propel you forward. You must realize that the only way to maintain success is to focus on the process and not the results. At times you are going to be uncomfortable and unsure of yourself, but do not let your ego or the fear of failing persuade you otherwise. You must learn to master your ego and not let it consume you. You must be honest with yourself and never forget all the hard work that led to your success. In order to achieve any of this you must work hard and practice deep focus. You must be able to work for hours on end without distractions. You must separate yourself from the rest and do what makes you happy in the long term, not the short term.  My goal as a coach and a writer is to teach you that the obstacle is the pain. My goal is to get you to embrace the uncomfortable with guts over fear.