"Be natural and yourself and this glittering flattery will be as the passing breeze of the sea on a warm summer day"- William Sherman, General from the Civil War
Last week I was listening to the School of Greatness Podcast with Lewis Howes and I came across an episode with sports psychologists Dr. Michael Gervais (HERE). The episode covered a range of topics on high performance mindset training. The two talked about the importance of meditation and having a mentor. But the thing that caught my attention the most was when Dr. Gervais talked about the importance of being yourself and how it is the key to a happy life. But he was quick to mention the challenge that comes with it. And I agree, it may sound easy on paper, but being yourself is one of the hardest things to do. It is much easier to be the person that others want you to be. But you must have the courage to go on your own journey and find yourself.
Dr. Gervais believes that giving love to everyone is one of the best ways to find yourself. Love is not about receiving, it is about giving. The only way to be at peace with yourself is to experience love and the only way to do this is through giving and showing empathy for others. Regardless of how they treat you, you must be the stronger person and show love. It doesn’t matter if they are rude or belittle you, he believes that we should show love no matter what. This is challenging, especially in today's world where we are inundated with information every second. This new age doesn’t allow us to become who we want to be. It persuades us to wear a mask that others like instead of the one that we want. It motivates us to impress others, when we should just try to impress ourselves.
I am no stranger to this and have struggled with my own self image. For the last twenty-five years I have been on a journey to figure out who I am. Over the last couple of years I have gotten better, but if I am being honest, I am still lost and confused searching for answers. Nevertheless, I know I am not alone in this journey. We are all searching for the answer on how to be comfortable in our own skin regardless of our success or how we look. I know this journey is never ending, however I believe I have gotten one step closer to figuring myself out. It starts with giving and showing love. I am not saying that this will work for everyone, but if it is working for Dr. Gervais then maybe it can work for me and you.