Lets face it,
I am not the smartest guy, nor am I the best writer or even the best speaker. I constantly struggle with public speaking, I even struggle talking to the opposite sex. In a quest to solve my flaws, I have learned how to be successful. How did this happen? It is quite simple, I listened to podcasts, read self-help books and developed a slight obsession with improving myself. As I listened to literally hundreds of podcasts, I soon started to realize that the brightest minds and most successful people share common traits.
There are three important things that constantly pop up in all of these interviews and books; discipline, consistency, and obsession. It seems that the most successful people have mastered these three traits. People try say that the key to success is a balanced life. That is right to an extent, however, a balanced life will only let you grow so much. For example, I am obsessed and passionate about the human body. I love learning about human interaction, and how the brain works. This type of information lights a fire in me and gets me excited. I want to learn about everything the body can do. I want to know why coffee makes me happy or why sex is the best thing in the world. Have you ever wondered why hugs feel so good? Or how you fall in love with someone? There can be no balance in this, there is too much information to learn. The only thing there can be is an obsession. There has to be consistency, I have to show up every single day and go to work. That is what successful people do. They show up every single day and go to work. They don't make excuses and put it off until tomorrow. There is no time for that. Successful people become obsessed with their work, and do everything possible to make their dream a reality.However though, there is method to the madness. With anything life there is a U curve, you can only get positive results for so long before everything comes crashing down.
So how do we do this though? How do we constantly work on something we love every single day?
The answer is discipline and having seasons. It makes sense right? Our whole childhood is seasonal, you go to school then you have summer break. You can relax and recharge the batteries, ready for a new school year. Here's the thing, once you graduate college, there are no more seasons.All you have is work, work and more work until you burn out. The secret to staying motivated and on task is having seasons. I will wake up early around 6am and get my work done, I am obsessed with knowledge at that point. I am ready to learn and grow as a person. But when 7pm rolls around I am tired and could care less. All I want to do is relax, and do the stuff I love, like read or watch something on Netflix. I do it this way because I am a morning person and that's when my discipline is at its highest. When night time comes, I don't do anything because I am all out of will-power but I know once I get a good night's sleep (in bed before 11) I will be ready to go for another exciting day. Here's the thing, you only need disciple for a certain time period before your actions turn into a habit. Once, you have turned your actions into a habit you no longer need discipline. For example, do you struggle to brush your teeth every morning? No, it is easy because you have been doing it every morning for the last ten years. Most likely you don't even think about it and just accept it as part of your routine. That is what successful people do. They wake up every morning and do the one thing they need to do that day to lead them to success. In the beginning it is going to be hard, no one said this was going to be easy. You have to be strong, you have to search down deep, you have to believe in yourself and surround yourself with people who believe in you. You have to be consistent and show up every single day. When you show up every single day, something magical happens, it become second nature. It becomes a part of your daily routine, you won't need discipline or willpower anymore. You can now use that discipline to build another successful habit.
I use the following analogy with all my clients... " two boats start out next to each other in the sea. One boat goes straight for 180 days, the other boat does the same but is off by 1 degree. At first, this change is very subtle, no changes are detected. However, after the 180 days the two boats are in completely different places."
The point of the story, small changes lead to big results.
Have a great week everyone, and remember..
"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop." - Confucius
So what do you do now?
First, you need to establish a morning routine, so that every morning you already know what you are doing. I believe rituals are great for building discipline and helps start your day out in the right direction. For example every morning I try to meditate, make coffee, write or read for a little bit. I will try to get outside as soon as possible for some sunlight. I'll admit it doesn't always go perfectly but I make it my goal to do it every single morning. As I continually do it, it is getting easier and easier because I feel better when I do my routine. So before starting anything, first, find a morning routine you can stick to. Now don't try to meditate, go for a run, do yoga, and write a book each morning. Keep it simple and under 30 minutes, remember, simplicity is key. Once you master one thing, then you can move on to other stuff, take it one step at a time.
After you master your morning routine, you have to start reverse engineering your goals. Think about your five year goal, now think about how your 1 year goal will get you to your five year goal and so on all the way down to one day. Here's the order on how to reverse engineer it; five year goal, one year goal, six month goal, one month goal, one week goal, daily goal. By reversing engineering your goals, it allows you to see the big picture and focus on the end goal, but it doesn't allow you to get overwhelmed.
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