Be Yourself & Give Love To Everyone
"Be natural and yourself and this glittering flattery will be as the passing breeze of the sea on a warm summer day"- William Sherman, General from the Civil War
Last week I was listening to the School of Greatness Podcast with Lewis Howes and I came across an episode with sports psychologists Dr. Michael Gervais (HERE). The episode covered a range of topics on high performance mindset training. The two talked about the importance of meditation and having a mentor. But the thing that caught my attention the most was when Dr. Gervais talked about the importance of being yourself and how it is the key to a happy life. But he was quick to mention the challenge that comes with it. And I agree, it may sound easy on paper, but being yourself is one of the hardest things to do. It is much easier to be the person that others want you to be. But you must have the courage to go on your own journey and find yourself.
Our ancestors evolved living in tribes and small communities until the creation of cities and modern society. For the last 200,000 to 300,000 years we lived and interacted with others on a daily basis. Our mind and body adapted to learn how to survive in a small community. In tribal life, everyone had a purpose and a job to do. This dependence on someone else wired us to be social and help one another. This behavior trait was advantageous for us back then because it allowed us to survive dire situations. Currently, the need for help from others to survive has greatly been diminished. This has left us clueless, searching for our passion and purpose. The majority of us live alone and can survive in today's world by ourselves. But this environment can also do harm and lead to a lack of purpose due to you not being needed. This lack of purpose and need by others has caused the use of social media to skyrocket.
For the last five years I have been an avid podcast fan, listening to a podcast every day. I find podcasts to be very informative and a great learning experience. Furthermore, it is very humbling and inspiring to listen to the likes of Arnold Schwarzenegger, Matt Mullenweg, and Vince Vaughn to name a few. But the true beauty of a podcast is how it humanizes the individual. It shows us that the most successful people are just like you and I. They have fears and insecurities, but what makes them different is their ability to confront those fears.
One of my favorite podcasts, The Tim Ferriss Podcast, does just that. His goal for the show is to interview experts who excel in their field to find out what makes them so successful. His questions range from their morning routine to their favorite books. In his last podcast (HERE), he interviewed Ray Dalio, who is considered one of the greatest investors of our time. In the podcast they covered a range of topics, but the one that stood out the most was the discussion on principles. Both Tim and Ray have very strong principles and recommend that you develop a set of your own. So I decided to take the opportunity to compose my own seven principles. Enjoy.